God Bless the Broken Roads...

1st Road: When ufall in love for the first time in ur life u think he/she is the ONE, u really love them deeply from the heart, and u start to dream of spending the rest of ur life with them, plan things together slowly..u are filled with this strong new emotion that takes over u, afraid at the same time of losing them, u see no one but them and this new feelings...until one day, circumstances change and somehow..u partways from ur loved one. Sadly all ur dreams smash hard with reality..but still with ur hurt u try to fight back against time. Ur still holding on for sometime, but not forever. Cuz nature has to do its job after all..and it's only a matter of time and distance to realize u have to let them go..and accept the fact that u were never meant to be for each other.

2nd Road: Now ur broken and defeated, and most importantly..LONELY, u long for someone to help u through ur days and nights, u miss the feelings that u felt before, u miss belonging to someone, giving and sharing..so u attract someone to help u through this phase of ur life, and then...BANG! u think he/she is the ONE! and u do the biggest mistake of falling for them. With this person, watch your heart and don't fall in love easily. Most likely you'll get hurt. I call this person the Transition Person. Usually this person dosn't remain in our lives, or live up to fantasies we may have created about them, but they do serve a purpose in help us move on and into new space. That person is someone you have attracted to help u move on. Now comes the sticky part: often u think u have attracted that person as your life long soul mate. Wrong! Usually that's not the case. That person lives out whatever karma they have to help u move on, then moves out of ur life. Your soul is confused. But you have to understand their role in your life and accept it, allowing time for ur soul to heal from the other issues.

3rd Road: Ur still hurt, confused and scared. Ur afraid to open ur heart and soul one more time, u don't trust urself or others, ur tryign ur best to move on, but in need to a frined's hand, a kind word, u don't need a lover at this stage..u need a friend. It took u days and weeks and to heal ur wounds, with an understanding soul that looks over u, shared with u all ur frustrations and breakdowns. All ur UPS and DOWNS. Someone was and is there for u and with u during it all, without planning and without knowing how much more time u need to realize that the ONE was always there with u and beside u but u were blind to see this truth! Things didn't have to be official and traditional to go through the phases of dating, meeting the parents and getting married. Sometimes it just doesn't have to work this way and it still suit u, it works for u and it never changed the fact that ur comfortable with it, ur best friend, ur life partner and ur soulmate. U find them all in one: The Only ONE for you! After u realized this fact, u need to trust again, u want to give and feel loved again..even more better, ur grown up now, u know what u need in life and what u want, u understands ur needs, u are a wiser and more experience version of u, u are committed to this relationship for life, u give unconditionally and faithfully, u may face rough rocky roads along the way. But u manage to batch things together before u go to sleep.

Now, what will happen to you when u lose the Only ONE for you? Ur life will stop? The sun will stop on shining? The earth will quit spinning around? You wonder about the fantasy about eternal love and romance and whether it will ever find you. You may feel alone and depressed. This is better than giving your personal power away. noh?

You must now seek your personal power and continue the journey that was given to you when you first attracted the Only ONE for u. How have you grown from the experience? Are you upset because you did not get what you want or expected? How long did you really feel the Only ONE for u could maintain this experience while dealing with their own issues? Can you get past the anger? Doesn't everybody after a period of time? After a bad relationship ends you must find out who you have become and what you have learned. You are not the same person you were when you first started the initial relationship. You have grown in both relationships and reality now takes on a new frequency for you.

Happy Birthday!

Being alone is a time of growth. You do not have to feel lonely. This is your journey ... use it wisely.