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Wednesday, July 26, 2006

missing you-again!

Wishing you were here,
Trying not to shed a tear,
Wanting to hold you near,
I lie awake at night,
Wondering what you're dreaming?
Being so far away,
On this drab and boring day,
My thoughts turn to you,
Trying to get through,
Without being blue.
Are you thinking of me?
Are our minds on the same thing?
These feelings inside,
So new, yet so tender.
Looking at your picture,
At least I can remember.
Time has no mercy!
Or it would bring you to me.
It would make the days fly,
The nights disappear,
And I wouldn't be sitting here
Missing you, dear.

Monday, July 24, 2006

madly deeply truely

In the late of night,while am still a stranger in this darkness,I couldn't help but to open my pc and write few lines about you & for you..it's been a while since my last blog,although most of it was copied from inspirational qoutes,but this time I prefered to pour me into these lines..
8 days have past since last I saw ur smile (aside from our webmeetings it can never replace ur babyface).
8 days without hearing you,talking to you,feeling ur hands protecting me,holding me..I don't know how many more days before I go home..
Simply..I miss you..
I miss you soo much that it hurt and make me laugh at that,am really a drama queen, am I?
I know I'll be coming back again it's not am leaving for good..but really can't help missing you..
take the advantage please while am away..rest well,sleep well,workout well,be good..I know you've always been good,but it's my habit of reminding you of that,I don't mean anything I swear..I trust you more than I trust this world, even me sometimes..

I miss you truely..
the same missing when you are not around,when I don't hear anything from you,our couch,kuboz,the programmes we used to watch together,our time either online or on the phone,our outings,even if we don't have anything to buy,our laughs,our tears..our emotional fights,our peace and making up that comes afterward..
Deeply,I miss you..

today I really missed chatting with you,but fate didn't help us this time,with the problems I was having with my chat device,then the problem switched to urs..then it was on me again that I missed our chat date when I came late this evening..it really not ment tohappen.

Did you call your mom?it's her birthday today..mother is the most valuable person in life..
am really starting to lose it again,I just miss you baby..that's all

..I know you know!

till then...Gunyt po!

Saturday, July 08, 2006

RELATIONSHIP SECRETS


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ANNIVERSARIES
Always celebrate! Whether it's the 1st or the 50th, each year together isa triumph.

APPRECIATION
Let each other know how much you appreciate each other.You may already know but hearing it from each other is always better.

BEST FRIENDS
Be best friends preferably before being boyfriend-girlfriend.Take time to know each other so the relationship will be a deep one.Tell each other about your crushes, dreams and problems.Make sure he/she is your best friend before getting engaged.The strong bond of friendship will help you both survive tough times.

BOND
Make it a point to spend time together often but leave room for each other. Also spend time alone w/ each other, so that at the end of the day you could both share your experiences. This way, you stay interesting with your partner.

CHANGING EACH OTHER
Don't marry an as...le, j.... or a bi.... (an unsuitable person) You'll never change each other.

COMPLIMENTS
Always compliment each other.This will prevent feelings of resentment & thinking that one is being taken for granted.

DATE
Keep doings things that you both enjoy, do them together.Make time & continue to date to keep the romance - look good, smell good to maintain physical attractionDIFFERENCESCelebrate differences. Never force your ideologies down each other's throat. Give up trying to turn your partner into you. Accept differences, appreciate them.

FIGHTS
Fight w/the aim to resolve the issue. Don't outdo each other.The longer you extend the fight. The more chances that you'll say something hurtful that you don't really mean. As mad as you were w/ your partner, he/she is still the person who laughs at your jokes & thinks you're hot.Hear each other out, don't dig up old issues. Choose your battles.Make sure the fight will be worth it & that something will change in the relationship as a result of the fight.

FLAWS
Know that the perfect person does not exist.Know that just as there are things that you love about him/her, there will be things that will make you go crazy. We are only human with our own flaws.

FUN
Have fun together! This means keeping the fun & spontaneity that was there in the early days. Allow yourselves to get silly - shower together, pee w/the door open etc. Being able to make each other laugh & see the lighter, crazier, absurd side is the best way to get through all the differences in personalities, adjustments in lifestyle & opposing viewpoints.

GOALS
Make sure you have similar goals.It would be difficult to keep your bond intact if your views are complete opposite.

GRUDGES
Quit tabulating grudges. Let it off. Discuss it, then trash it, don't recycle it.

KEEPING IT HOT
Keep it hot by traveling to diff. places together.A new setting will do wonders. Always have skin contact - be it holding hands, a massage or just plain leg rubbing.

HONESTY
Don't lie or hide things. The problem will only get bigger.

KNOW EACH OTHER
Learn each other's interest. It really keeps the conversation flowing!HUGA hug can be far better more intimate than a kiss.

IDENTITY
Don't lose your personality - that's why he/she fell in love w/you.Have separate interest & activities to keep your individual, & to be able to contribute more to the relationship.

INDEPENDENCE
Having your own income means you're the boss in your life.IN-LAWSMake rooms for the in-laws.

INTENTIONS
Wish each other well. Don't wish each other worst

ISSUES
Speak up about the awkward stuff now,like money & sex. The earlier, the better.LISTENListen, listen, listen. Hear each other out especially during arguments.

LOOK GOOD
Mind your appearance! Stay fit & healthy for each other.

LOVE
It all boils down to your love, chemistry & respect for each other.

MEMORIES
Remind each other of the old days. Do something that you used to do for each other before.It may even be corny but it made you two together.Experience new things together- from dining into a new restaurant to experiencing street food together to exploring to new places. It's the little surprises that make great memories.

MIND READING
No matter how long you've been together, do not think that you can read each other's mind.

NEEDS
Be good to yourself,then be good to your partner.That's what love is all about. Think about your partner. Will it make him/her happy? Will she/he enjoy it? Consider each other's feelings.Be very attentive & sensitive to each other's needs, physically & emotionally, that way your partner learns to do the same for you.Never take your partner for granted.

PRIORITIES
If one says it's important, then it is! Prioritize each other among other things!

SPACE
Give each other space. Have dates with your girlfriends, have your boy's night out.If you can't trust each other with this, then don't get married.SORRYSay sorry when you're wrong.


SURPRISES
No matter how long you've known each other, be open to surprises, both good or bad.

TEAMWORK
Think for two & always work as a team.Consult each other before making a decision because everything will always affect both of you.Strengthen couple power.In many ways, we have to decide based on what is best for the relationship in favor of our individual selves.

SUPPORT
Support each other's dream. Be willing to follow your passions, support your partner in his/her decisions & create new ones together.Two heads are better than one.

TALK
Tell each other's stories. Life goes by so fast & its easy to see how easily couple can grow apart.Whenever something funny, scary, exciting or juicy happened to you or to someone you know, tell each other about it & have your partner do the same. Keep each other in the loop of life, even by email if you have to.

*Communication is the main ingredient in successful long relationships. Share your feelings w/o judgments or criticism, active listening,then working up to a discussion for problem solving. It takes continuous effort & learning.

Thanx Hugsy,Labu!

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